Live life on your terms
We easily get caught up into the system of doing things the ‘right’ way, of following a certain way because well others are doing it a certain way and it’s working for them so surely if you want your life to work for you, following someone else’s way of living seems to be the way to go. Right? Ideally….yes.
Realistically, not always. Unless you want to lose your sense of self and become a reflection of other people. But what if you could live life on your terms? What if you could do what makes YOU truly happy instead of doing what is right!
Sure you have your responsibilities, like going to work everyday BUT that is no excuse to not live and create the life you want.
The point here is:
DO life the way YOU want to DO it.
and then ENJOY it the way it is and stop beating on yourself that you need to be more like others.
it’s to have one full day of the week where i do not work at ALL and spend that time in nature.
it’s to go grocery shopping 2-3 times a week (because i don’t do once a week with meal plans even if I THINK doing life that way would be so clever and time efficient but it simply doesn’t work for ME).
it’s to have a cold shower everyday because it makes my body feel alive.
it’s to choose NOT to socialise because i prefer being alone reading books
it’s to decide at the last minute which place i want to visit because planning times ahead just doesn’t seem to work.
it’s to cook when i feel like it and eat only fruits or veggies when i don’t.
it’s to write a weekly to do list for my monthly projects and goals.
it’s to write daily NOT knowing what i’m gonna write about
it’s to wash my hair once a week because it is better for MY hair type and it suits me just fine that way
What matters is that you personalize it to work for YOU.
Does it MATTER to you to spend hours preparing meals? Yes. Then SPEND hours preparing meals. No? Then don’t.
For years I engaged in a cycle of self-abuse because really that’s what it is.
Everytime you are criticizing yourself, you are abusing yourself
Everytime you are forcing yourself, you are abusing yourself
Self abuse has become the ‘normal’ way for most people but it’s not sustainable. Long term you will make you miserable.
Even if it didn’t look the picture perfect
Even if it means that my life is not planned 1 week ahead
Even if there are more efficient ways to live a life
What matters is honoring ME in the process of creating my life.
If doing things gently softly makes you happy, then accept it and do things gently and softly
If being super organised makes you happy, then accept it and BE super organised
If NOT being organised makes you happy, also accept it and allow yourself NOT to be organised.
The idea is to always do what makes YOU happy.
Even when it doesn’t look right, perfect or ideal
Even when no one else is functioning that way
Even if no one else understands your way
It doesn’t matter.
What matters is that you be true to YOU.
What matters is that you have your own back.
What matters is that you live the life YOU like.
Because you don’t owe anyone a reason. You don’t owe anyone an explanation or justification. BUT you do owe it to YOU!