We all face challenges, challenges are situations that demand us to extend ourselves beyond our current level of comfort. A challenge forces us to face our truth, our fears but above all our desires.
If you are reading this post, chances are that you are currently facing a challenge yourself. Maybe you are challenged in your work situation, in your relationship, in your family life, in your health.
Whatever it may be, there is currently a situation that is causing you pain, discomfort.
You are probably looking at this challenge and feeling overwhelmed, you KNOW what you have to do, but somehow you simply dont know where to start.
And worse, maybe deep down you don’t really believe that you CAN overcome that challenge. Maybe it’s something that has been challenging you for some time, a situation that has been going on for months, maybe years.
Maybe you’ve attempted to ‘fix’ it but it’s still the same. Nothing’s really changed and you are STILL so miserable about it.
It’s consuming you from the inside. You want that situation to change so much YET it’s still there. You simply don’t know what to do and where to start.
If this is you, this post was written especially FOR you.
In my life I’ve been faced with many challenges, like every. We ALL have to face our own personal challenges, no one is exempt from this. And what I have learnt over years, is this.
A challenge is only an invitation for you to out create yourself.
A challenge is never here to ruin your life.
It’s not here to make you miserable and when that is the case,
When we ARE miserable because we simply cannot seem to overcome that challenge,
then it’s time to step back for a moment and be honest with ourselves.
Challenging moments require that we be authentic with ourselves, and there is never a better time to do so than during a challenge.
But first remember this,
There is nothing that you are faced with that you do not have the power to overcome. Nothing.
And that is the absolute truth.
I know you might be thinking ‘yeah right’ ‘that’s for others, not for me’ but this is not true. And THESE thoughts are part of the issue you are facing. The challenge is NOT the issue, the thoughts are.
You see, we’ve all heard of miracle stories where someone overcame something that seemed impossible. And the thing that differentiates these people from others, is how they approach a challenge.
I like to see a challenge like a wall. There are many ways to approach that wall.
You can cry about it. You can scream at it. You can hit your head against it. You can turn around. You can go around it. Blow it or climb over it.
Can you see where I’m getting to. The point is NOT the wall, but how we choose to approach it.
ALL obstacles are overcome-able.
What if you COULD overcome that challenge? Because you know what? You CAN.
The question is not if or even how. The question you need to ask yourself is what.
What is this challenge telling ME about myself?
What is this challenge telling ME that I truly desire?
What is is telling me that I currently BELIEVE about myself?
What is it showing me that I no longer desire?
Your challenge is here to show you a great many things.
The goal is to shift perspective. Just like with the wall analogy.
What would you REALLY REALLY like to see happen?
And do you want to overcome that challenge?
I know that deep down you do otherwise you wouldn’t be reading this.
And you are probably wondering how. How can I overcome this? Because maybe you don’t think you have what it takes, that it’s too hard.
You are discouraged because you are not seeing the result and you just feel like giving up. Maybe you have given up a little and it is killing you inside. It is causing you so much pain, because you feel like you are letting yourself down. You look around and everything seem to be able to do what you cannot and it hurts. It hurts to be faced with a challenge that seems insurmountable.
I know. I have felt these times and times again. I still can feel that way occasionally but I have learnt how to shift my perspective.
One of the most important element is to see a challenge for what it is.
So often we see them much much bigger than they are. Our ego gets involved and we create huge stories around our challenges, around why we can’t, why we shouldn’t or couldn’t.
Every time we do this, we are in fact cheating ourselves. That is why it feels so painful. Because deep down we KNOW. You KNOW you CAN do something about it and you are not.
Take the challenge you are currently going through, and put your story aside for a moment.
All the reasons that you have for why you can’t or don’t know how to overcome this challenge, put these aside.
Instead ask yourself:
WHAT is this challenge telling me that I REALLY want?
WHAT is this challenge telling me that I NO longer want?
You have to be honest with yourself. Remember your challenge is inviting you to dig deep inside of you, to find out what it is you really want. And I insist on the ‘REALLY want’ because often times we THINK we want something that we actually don’t.
And that can also make us extremely miserable because we are not being authentic.
But once you have revealed to yourself what you REALLY want. Sit with it. And start imagining in your mind what it would feel like to be that person who has overcome the challenge.
Give yourself permission to dream yourself bigger. AND FEEL IT.
Allow yourself to daydream about it.
Once you KNOW what you really want, and once you can FEEL what it feels like to have overcome that challenge. Write down 3 things you can do that would help you overcome that challenge.
You only need 3 things. Start with 3 small things, however small. The aim is to start somewhere with tiny baby steps. Don’t try to do more than 3 things because you will feel overwhelmed. What matters is that you aim to do 3 things as many times in a week as you can.
Doing this, will allow you to continue to move forward EVEN if you don’t think you are progressing, even if you are not seeing immediate results. It’s a logical approach, if you keep moving forward, however small a step, you will be in a different place.
Once you are happy with your 3 things, the next step is to let yourself off the hook.
Start being kind to yourself, belittling, criticizing and blaming yourself will NOT help you overcome that obstacle. If anything it will slow down your progress. Because a mind that judges, is a closed mind, a closed mind cannot grow. A closed mind, is a mind that remains exactly where it is.
So be kind to YOU. Each time that you start hearing that little voice inside you telling you that it’s too much for you, come back to your truth.
+ What you REALLY want
+ The 3 things you can do TODAY that will bring you closer to overcoming that challenge
+ kindness and compassion towards yourself.
Remember that everything takes time. If you are wanting things to just happen already yesterday, you will continue to feel frustrated. It’s OK for things to take time. Because it’s all about the journey. About enjoying the journey.
So next time that you feel overwhelmed, remember that your challenge is only here to invite YOU to out create yourself. And that you CAN do it. You’ve GOT this. Just keep putting one tiny step in front of the other and before you know it, you will be exactly where you didn’t imagine you could be.