Have you ever noticed how some weeks you are full of energy, optimistic and happy and then out of what feels like nowhere, your mood shifts. Your energy level drops, you feel annoyed, unmotivated, maybe sad or even frustrated. Have you ever wondered why? Why you feel down some days and not others?
THE SHADOW ASPECT
TRANSCENDING THE SHADOW
Even when this happens, know that there is nothing wrong with you.
Know that it is all normal, as painful, as uncomfortable as it all feels it IS part of the journey.
The simple way to ride through these cycles as they come (and the more you can do this, the less frequent and the less intense they will get) is to stop resisting. IT is to stop fighting yourself. Because in the end that is what you are doing. Fighting against you but it is a lost fight and a painful one.
The simple way out of these cycles is through.
Whenever you are facing these cycles remember to FEEL all of the emotions that are coming up. To NOT wish that it was any different. Because it is the way it is and in this moment or extended moment, the shadow aspect is asking for acknowledgement. It is asking to be heard and seen, like a child that is willing to bring out the worst jus for a little attention.
3 STEP PROCESS
It is a very simple 3 step process.
When your shadow self comes up, you want to acknowledge what is. You can do this by saying
what is, is that I feel like crap right now. What is, is that I am angry now. What is is that I want to be angry etc etc
Then you just sit with whatever emotions are coming up without saying anything about them. It is energy moving through your body, thus, e-motion. It doesnt require judgement or analyses. The simple fact that you can sit with it, WILL transcend it. You dont need to do anything.
And lastly embrace that aspect of you, because it IS YOU. Embrace the good, the bad and the ugly as you would anyone that you LOVE with all your heart…. and watch the shadow transform. What you will find is that the cycle of pain will not last as long as usual. That it will not stay with you for so long. IF you can, acknowledge what is, sit with it and embrace YOU.
You might not think to do it everytime, you might not even realise that your shadow is awakened the moment it has but with practice, patience and gentleness, you will become better at identifying it and at receiving that part of you that is desperate to be felt and seen and heard.
Just remember, the way you feel is all normal and that nothing has gone wrong.